How to Talk to Your Kids About Faith When You’re Deconstructing

When I first started unraveling the faith I was raised in, I thought the hardest part would be the theology itself: the questions, the doubts, the late-night wondering if God was angry at me.

But the hardest part, hands down, was figuring out how to parent in the middle of it, especially because I was also parenting in the middle of divorce.

Because faith isn’t just personal - it’s generational. I had these small faces looking up at me, asking me to explain the world, to pray with them at bedtime, to tell them what happens after death. And I had to decide: what do I carry forward? What do I let go of? How do I protect them from the harm I endured without cutting them off from the beauty I still believe is possible?

If you’re here, you probably know that tension too. So, here’s what I’ve learned.